Abraham Lincoln used to write Hot Letters.
In these letters, he would pile all his anger (against someone during his tenure as POTUS) into a note, and put it aside till all his emotions would cool down.
He would then write on it – “Never Sent, Never Signed”
This technique of handling strong negative emotions was taught to me by my dad during my teenage years of utter rebellion.
Sometimes you cannot confront people on conflicting opinions because of reasons like – it’s not dignified/ it’s not diplomatic/ there are no winners from this fight/ their authority is unquestionable/ or simply because this is an emotional trigger that you know is close only to your heart given some past experiences.
How do you let your steam off then?
The art of the unsent Angry (Hot) Letter often helps me!
What’s your tactic?
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